At university this week, we were having a conversation about faith and grief, and losing your faith when you lose a loved one. Whilst many people experience this, I found I have relied on my faith more than ever before in this difficult time.
About a year after my mum became ill, in 2019, she decided to visit a religious person in London. She used to worship this man, she watched all of his programmes on TV, called into his show and wanted to know what prayers she could do to live longer.
Whilst I am a religious person, I knew that her time was limited and I didn’t and still don’t believe anything could have been done to extend her life, scientifically or religiously; she was suffering far too much.
My mum poured her feelings and sorrows to this man, about how her cancer had spread and how she wanted to live. He listened closely to what she was saying. Then he told her that for £2,000 he would do prayers for her to live until 2023.
Immediately I was against this. I told this man we needed time to think about it in an attempt to leave and never come back. However, my mum was desperate and agreed, despite my objections.
Eventually my dad persuaded her that this was a bad idea, and we told this man we would not be going ahead with it. However, a couple of weeks later he said that he had already done it and requested money, which we didn’t send.
This terrified my mum, and she was scared that this would mean she would die sooner, that they would wish for her to be gone. The thought that they might have done this has crossed my mind several times, especially because my mum only lived another four months after this ordeal.
However, in my mind, any God would not allow people to pray for someone’s downfall and certainly would not fulfil it. For me, my mum was terribly unlucky and I don’t think anything could have changed what happened.
I wanted to share this story to warn you about the sort of people that can be out there. When you’re in a desperate situation, there may be someone willing to exploit you, so be vigilant. If something sounds too good to be true, it may well be. Keep yourself surrounded with friends and family and those who you know will be there for you. Don’t allow people to trick you for their own nefarious purposes.